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Author: Becoming aware of negative patterns is the first step toward replacing them with more positive ones. Watch for the patterns in your family. If you have frequent negative encounters with other family members, it is likely that everyone concerned is perpetuating conflict. Privately try to conceptualize how you and others are behaving. Then ask yourself, “How do I contribute to conflict?”
If you’re a family fighter, decide to interrupt your own entrenched positioning. Review the likelihood that you have negative relating styles that add to and promote conflict. If you assassinate the character of others, insult them, or call them names; if you yell or scream; if you are contemptuous, sarcastic or impudent; or if you use profanity or vulgarity, you’re an obvious contributor. Equally so, you’re a contributor if you aim to control or overpower any family member through intellect, voice volume, body language, threats, or forcefulness.
Some people eat to live while others live to eat. To what group do you belong?
When is a man alive? One is alive when he does something good like writing a letter to a loved one, reading a good book or solving a problem. Can one not be alive in the face of danger or in great sorrow? How about in hearty laughter?
The opposite of alive is merely existing. One exists when he washes the dishes and hates it. One exists when his activities consist of eating, drinking and finally sleeping when one is full. Going to and from the school or office would mean mere existence if the day passes without any accomplishment on one’s part.
In general, being alive or merely existing is a state of mind.